On 14th April at approx 8.10am I watched Xavier set foot onto his new school minibus for the first time. THIRD school… New school…new start. I felt a mixture of emotions… excited…anxious…nervous….the list is endless. I waved him off with a slight lump in my throat and with slightly watery eyes and then clocked watched all day until his return!
At around 4.25pm the minibus pulled up outside and I went out to greet him. I was met with a boy with a HUGE smile on his face. My heart almost exploded in my chest! He had an amazing first day, he loved it!
Since then his confidence has grown and there have been so many little breakthroughs. I am so so proud of him. It is such a massive step for him to travel on a minibus to school with strangers for a start. He knew no-one on that bus. At his 2 previous schools it was always me doing the school run to and from. He has made friends on the minibus. He has even had 2 children from school knock for him to see if he wants to play out! With the school not being local I never in a million years anticipated this happening!! He has never had anyone knock for him before! I could have cried.
He has always had issues with his toileting. Number 2’s to be precise. It was always a horrific ordeal. He used to “go” once a week…. holding onto it. When the time finally came to let it go he was in such excruciating pain he would scream the house down. Now… he isn’t quite going daily yet but rather than us having to urge him to go he is going by himself and without any screaming! It is incredible.
He is clearly so much happier… we have had next to no meltdowns since he started his new school. He seems to be a lot calmer and is certainly laughing more!
He has been swimming with school and where the previous school took 5 sessions to even get him in the pool… he got straight in on his 1st visit. Bearing in mind this was a different swimming pool, with different children and staff. “I even dunked my shoulders in Mum!!” So pleased with himself!
He has had 2 Head Teacher Award Stickers in 6 weeks. On was for a great piece of work… the other was for going into a younger class to show them how to use the iPads!!!
He has made friends…. there have been no negatives at all so far! He loves that he is able to call the adults by their 1st names. He loves cooking. He eats lunch in the school hall alongside everyone else which he never used to do!
He has just finished Activity Week at school. On Monday they went to a local park and then had McDonalds for lunch. On Tuesday they went to an Adventure Park. On Wednesday they had school based activities. On Thursday they went to the cinema in the morning then LaserQuest in the afternoon. Friday morning they went swimming and Friday afternoon was Sports Day which I went to watch. It was so wonderful! There was no pressure on anyone to win. Everyone was praised just for taking part. Watching the wheelchair bound children taking part with helpers etc too was so heart warming. Xavier did a running race in which he came last and an obstacle race. It doesn’t matter at all that he didn’t win. To see him taking part in active things with a huge smile on his face was AMAZING!!! He struggles with these things as he has weak muscle tone in his legs due to tip toeing.
But…. there’s more…and this is HUGE!!! A couple of weekends ago we celebrated my brother in laws 40th birthday. He had a party at our local Rugby Club. There was live music from my youngest sister and also from one of my Brother in Laws work friends. Xavier kept saying he wanted to get up and sing but didn’t think anybody would clap! Well guess what???!! He did it!!! I have video evidence too!
How bloody amazing is that!!? I am so so proud of him and how far he has come in 6 weeks!
Excited for his future! It was so worth the battle to get him into a school that he needed to be in!